A lot of us rely on others to help turn a negative moment into a positive one, a bad day into a good day, and while it is amazing to have people in our lives who can do this for us, it is even more amazing to be able to do this by yourself.
The truth is those people we rely on to make things better may not always be there for us when we need them, which is why learning how to be there for yourself is so important.
Something that helped me to learn how to turn things around by myself was to become the comforting, reassuring voice I would have once relied on.
Words affect the mind in a profound way, so whether you write them down, think them, or speak them, they are powerful influences.
This is why I began to practise talking to myself like my own best friend.
I started telling myself things my mum or best friend would always tell me such as:
“I know how hard this is for you right now, but (and there is always a but) it’s going to be okay.”
And I will keep telling myself these things over and over again until the message sinks in.
I often find writing down this comforting, reassuring narrative can be the most effective method.
Half of my notebook is filled with lines such as “you will get there”, “you’ve got this”, or “it’s going to be okay”.
So maybe next time you’re having a bad moment, instead of always turning to other people to help turn it around, try turning it around by yourself.
Because if we can be there for other people when they need it most, why can’t more of us start being there for ourselves?
Once you can get yourself out of that bad moment and turn it into a good one, there’s no reason why you can’t do it again the next time, and the time after that, and before you know it, being your own reassuring, comforting best friend comes naturally to you and you’ll find you no longer need to rely on others to turn things around for you
(Originally posted on @mindfullyevie Instagram and Facebook)