I think there are a lot of misconceptions when it comes to the words “positive” and “negative”. People often conceive the word positive to mean “no negative thoughts” and negative to mean “no positive thoughts”. But just as no day is 100% bad or 100% good, the same goes with positive and negative. No one is 100% positive or 100% negative. There is so much space between these polar opposite words that get overlooked.
This is important to remember as a positive person may think “it means I can’t have any negative thoughts”, which is completely impossible and overtime this pressure you put on yourself to “always think positively” will build up and eventually burst.
Another reason why this is important to remember is because turning a negative mindset into a positive one can seem unreachable at times. It’s asking someone to leap from 0 to 10, which only makes you feel worse about your situation and induce even more negative thoughts.
Once you start to remember all the space and levels between negative and positive, the transaction from one to another becomes easier as you’re no longer making that 0 to 10 jump. If you imagine it being a scale, 0 being the “negative” and 10 being the “positive”, you can start to see the various different levels between the words. It means you can step down from the big 10 to a 9, to allow those inevitable negative thoughts to flow through but still choosing to stay positive. Some days you might need to come further down the scale to let your frustration out, but still recognising you can go back up the scale just as easily as you came down when you’re ready. The same goes for when you’re at the lower end of the scale. If you’re at a 1 or 2, jumping to a 9 or 10 in a few minutes is slightly unrealistic. Instead, aiming to up that number to a 3 or 4 to start with, and if you do do that, make sure you recognise this achievement.
No one will ever stay at the exact same number 24/7. By thinking of positivity and negativity as a scale, it means you allow yourself to recognise that negative thoughts are inevitable and to also recognise that moving up the scale is always achievable, sometimes you just have to think baby steps 🌛💭
(Originally posted on @mindfullyevie Instagram and Facebook)